lovelanguageA few days ago many celebrated Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day is  day that some look forward to and some hope they could skip every year.  At one point in my life, Valentine’s Day was extremely important to me. Yes I still enjoy celebrating this day of love but what I’ve discovered over the years is that love is something that you show everyday. If we put all of our hopes and dream into one day, we will most likely end up disappointed.  So this leads me to this post one of my favorite topic…LOVE. Most folks that know me know that I love love. Let me say it again, I love love. I love romantic comedies;  I love hearing couples talking about how they met; I love weddings…you get my drift. I’ve been called a hopeless romantic, but I would like to think of myself as someone who believes in the power of love. Now don’t get me wrong, I realize that love can be complicated and painful but I also believe that love can be a beautiful thing.  So how many times, have you heard that love is an action word? I believe that when you truly love someone you don’t just say it, you show it. One of my favorite books on love is called “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman.  According to Gary Chapman, there are five main ways that we can express love to our partners.

1. Quality Time

Spending time together, doing things together. Giving your partner your undivided attention.

2. Gifts

Receiving presents on birthdays, anniversaries, or just because.

3. Acts of Services

Doing something for you partner like vacuuming the floor, putting gas in the car, cooking a meal.

4.   Words of Affirmation

Expressing your feelings for your partner, complimenting them on their outfit, saying things to build your partner’s self image.

5. Physical Touch

Holding hands, kissing your partner, stroking your partner’s hair, cuddling.

It’s important to we are aware of what our partner’s love language because it helps us to know how we can show them love in a way that they can appreciate. Keep in mind that each person in a relationship may have different love language.  Some may have a combination of love languages but most of us have a preference on how we feel most loved by our significant others.  SO, what are some ways that we can learn partner’s love language?  It takes times to understand what our partner wants from us, however I believe that if we tune in or observe how our partner show love, what they complain most about, and what they request most of you will guide us into knowing their love language.

I highly recommend this book as a good read. I believe that it can transform your relationship and even help you to discover what your love needs are.